Sex Pillows

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Sex positioning pillows. What need do I have for them?

I can use my bed pillows to put under my hips or sofa cushions to prop me up or the duvet right? Honestly, how wrong I was. And after my experiences with these pieces of sex furniture I am glad to admit it.

Sex positioning pillows actually support you so much better than a normal pillow. They hold their shape, supporting you in positions you may otherwise find difficult - not only to get into but also to maintain and hold yourself in.

This is incredible not just for those with reduced mobility perhaps due to injury, age or disability, but for all. These products are all about increasing pleasure for everyone. Making pleasure accessible, achievable, and available for more people.

They provide comfort and make sex easier and enjoyable. Enabling more pleasure with better positions. 

For example; many of us with vulvas have had a penis hit our cervix at just the wrong angle - it’s uncomfortable, we adjust to a better angle. But are often left concentrating more on our positioning or holding it than the actual sexual experience. Focusing on sexual admin more than pleasure. This can be the same for many other sexual positioning scenarios. Steadying ourselves at the exact angle that is most pleasurable can be tricky – but this is where sex pillows come in. Keeping you in those enjoyable positions for longer, taking your mind of whether you can hold your own body weight up much longer and instead centring your focus on how good it feels!!

Bang On are a UK based sex pillow company that make pillows specially designed to make sex more comfortable and accessible for all. With 5 different cushions that can be used alone or together. 

These items are so well made, with machine washable covers, in a variety of tasteful colours that can fit into your home without raising an eyebrow - unless you want them to of course. The material is great quality and the product keeps shape so well.

Perhaps you have had your ankles around your partner’s neck before. But holding yourself in this position is tiresome. It feels good but you’re focussing on the awkwardness of the position you’re holding. Sex positioning pillows can be put in place to help this. Or any other position.

Lift the hips. Support your back. The possibilities are endless.

And its even more fun discovering them all. Trying your own new moves. With this new easier way to play!

And even better – one pillow isn’t just a one position item. They can be used in so many ways alone or together and really are an investment into maintaining your long-term sexual comfort, enjoyment and intimate relationships.

We had friend’s mistake one for a children’s soft play item – which helped limit any uncomfortable conversations. Larger ones an be simply slid under beds/sofas or just kept stood up at the side of the room. Smaller ones easily blend in at home.

I thought some of the pieces wouldn’t be for us, instead more for people with limited movement. But with one use I quickly realised how limited my viewpoint had been and that these pillows are incredible for all.  

So how do you go about using them!?

Well that really depends on you, your sexual relationships and what you want to improve by using them. Whether it’s lifting up your hips when on your back or bum when on your front for a deeper penetration or perhaps bringing a new angle to oral or maybe creating some intimacy.

Here are a couple of suggestions from me so far:

(This is from the viewpoint of our cis-gendered male – female relationship. But could work for a variety of penetration either with a strap-on or anally.)

The Large Wedge:

Try him lying on the large wedge, so that it props him up slightly and her on top.

This means he is not laying flat so may find it more comfortable as well as the added benefit of being able to see more of what is going on. Also, the angle of him being slightly upright means that as she is riding him she can use the pressure of her body against his to stimulate her clitoris. This is especially beneficial with studies showing 80% of those with vulvas needing some sort of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm rather then relying on only penetrative sex.

The Curve:

Ever heard of the prone bone. Here in this example the woman lays flat on her front with her rear angled up slightly. The man straddles her legs from behind and penetrates her. The curve pillow allows for these arches up position to be held longer. This enables a deeper and really enjoyable penetration. The partner lying down is more comfortable as not relying on strength to hold position as have the support of the curve pillow.

Sex pillows may have passed me by before but now they are firmly on my radar! To get them on yours too go check out Bang On UK here.

And expect to hear a lot more from me – with more ideas of how you can introduce these into your sex life.