9th Wedding Anniversary

Today is our 9th Wedding Anniversary ❤️ (10.08.22)
Looking back at our wedding day I often comment how young I was.
I was 24, but marriage was the goal for me. I was obsessed with this idea that to be married was to complete life.

Unwittingly I had fallen head over heels straight into the heteronormative trap assigned to me by a conservative based society when I popped out into the world and they declared “it’s a girl”. Despite all my best efforts. The subjects I had studied etc.

The divorce rate in the UK is currently around 42%. Decreasing as we normalise alternatives. Cohabiting, open relationships, polyamory and more. But also still quite high.

And this is important…

We are all writing our own story. Full of chapters. Some chapters come to an end. But the pages keep turning. This is ok. You are the main character in your life story. We grow, change and evolve overtime. Some people feature in many of our chapters and others in few.

Marriage is a wild ride. Marrying young we have had to grow and communicate through so much, to find ourselves as individuals as well as a couple. Understanding time apart is as important as time together. Being our own selves as well as us in order to strengthen the relationship.

Then we catapulted ourselves into the role of parents: rediscovering ourselves and us through the murk of the chaos kids bring. Finding each other, but always talking.

We are still learning.

We do not always agree, or speak up when needed. But our pages still turn together. And be sure that this is not a text book! Nor a how to do it manual. We are a work in progress. But communication is the key.

A wedding is not the answer, or life’s goal. It’s just a chapter. A marriage may span several chapters or few. But don’t lose yourself in your story. Find you and work together to do so.

Sex is incredible, but understanding that sometimes staying up until the early hours laughing, chatting and telling stories is more intimate and connecting; it can be so powerful. It is these moments that can lead to stronger & better sexual relationships. It’s those moments that lay the foundations. Strengthen and renew.

Just my rambling thoughts on this day we call ours. ❤️❤️❤️